Although sexless marriages may appear on be on the outside to most people unhappy and un fulfilling - for many couples living this life this is not so. These couples have learnt how to stay happy/positive in a sexless marriage by finding other ways to be intimate with each other.Most of the time it is not a subconscious decision - over time couples find that their sex life begins to decline due to varying reasons such as routine, caring for children, working long hours and lost libido. For these couples their relationship may be totally fulfilling in every other way - but there just is no or very little physical intimacy by the way of sex.
Intimacy between two people does not only come in the physical sense. There is also emotional intimacy - and this is how many couples manage to stay happy who are in sexless marriages and relationships. Emotional intimacy between two people can be very powerful and can overcome many obstacles in a marriage - including the issue of no sex.
Don't be engrossed in yourself. Thinking about other people and helping them out may do you more good than you can imagine. Give money or clothing to a charity whenever you can.Keeping a journal that lists things you are thankful for is a great idea. The truth is that you have a lot of things to be thankful for everyday. Losing a job may seem like the worst thing that can happen to you, but you can be thankful for having a roof over your head and food on the table, can't you? Similarly, you may not be on speaking terms with your mother, but you do have a loving husband and friends. Be thankful for the things you have, instead of worrying about things you don't. Write in your journal everyday and make sure to have a look at it whenever you are feeling down.
Knowing how to stay happy/positive in sexless marriage is very important if the relationship is to last - it is hard work but very possible. It does take a certain type of couple to be able to conquer this - but with perseverance and open communication anything is possible.If someone were to ask you, you would probably say that you were a pretty happy person. You try to keep a positive frame of mind and stay upbeat. It can be difficult, though, to maintain a positive mindset when you find yourself surrounded by negativity.Here are a few ways you can help keep your positive attitude whenever you look around and find that everyone else is being negative.
There are more homeless families than there has ever been before. And it seems like every time you turn a corner, some one is getting cancer. With all this in life going on, how ever can a person continue to stay positive?Everything was lost, so I felt! The only thing that kept me going was to stay positive, no matter how hard it was.
Be the bigger person.It's not fun being around a negative person. But just imagine how miserable it must be to be the negative person. They are full of sour emotions and see themselves as the victim of life. They are probably scared and hurting in some way. Anger is one way that many people hide their troubles away from others. Try to be compassionate and give them the benefit of the doubt.
Bring them a little positivity.What can you do to help turn their day around? It could be something small, like acknowledging a recent accomplishment. Bring them a snack from the vending machine. Even simply asking them how they are doing can help them to open up a little and get things off their chest. Do what you think would cheer you up on an off day. If you are met with an even bigger wave of negativity, just walk away. You know that you tried, and you can't win them all!
Two: Think of an opportunity to turn the bad situation into a good situation. For instance, I never thought of how many job opportunities there are on the internet until I lost all my money in the real estate market. Now I am climbing back to the top with my online home business. Albert Einstein said: "In the middle of every difficulty, lies opportunity.Three: Realize how bad you feel when you are having negative feelings. Is it really worth it? Now realize how awesome you feel and how beautiful life really looks when you are having positive feelings. It really is hard just to go from feeling bad to feeling good. The best way to change your feelings is to think of something that makes you happy and then go there in your mind.
Four: The worst thing you can ever do, is to watch all the garbage that is going on in the news, whether it is on the television or in the news paper. It's OK to know what is going on in the world, but don't indulge yourself in it, especially when it is negative. All that does is make you feel worse and think that there is never going to be an end to all the bad stuff happening to you. Instead of listening or reading bad news, read a motivational book, or watch a comedy. You will be surprised at how your feelings will change, when you sit there and laugh until you cry at a funny movie.
Five: Most of all stay away from negative people and situations. The last thing you need when you're feeling down is someone else that is down. Get around up beat happy people. What a difference it made having to go have radiation every day.It really can be hard staying positive in such a negative world. But, really open your eyes and your heart, there is a million to one in positive energy versus negative energy around you, if you let it in!
Intimacy between two people does not only come in the physical sense. There is also emotional intimacy - and this is how many couples manage to stay happy who are in sexless marriages and relationships. Emotional intimacy between two people can be very powerful and can overcome many obstacles in a marriage - including the issue of no sex.
Don't be engrossed in yourself. Thinking about other people and helping them out may do you more good than you can imagine. Give money or clothing to a charity whenever you can.Keeping a journal that lists things you are thankful for is a great idea. The truth is that you have a lot of things to be thankful for everyday. Losing a job may seem like the worst thing that can happen to you, but you can be thankful for having a roof over your head and food on the table, can't you? Similarly, you may not be on speaking terms with your mother, but you do have a loving husband and friends. Be thankful for the things you have, instead of worrying about things you don't. Write in your journal everyday and make sure to have a look at it whenever you are feeling down.
Knowing how to stay happy/positive in sexless marriage is very important if the relationship is to last - it is hard work but very possible. It does take a certain type of couple to be able to conquer this - but with perseverance and open communication anything is possible.If someone were to ask you, you would probably say that you were a pretty happy person. You try to keep a positive frame of mind and stay upbeat. It can be difficult, though, to maintain a positive mindset when you find yourself surrounded by negativity.Here are a few ways you can help keep your positive attitude whenever you look around and find that everyone else is being negative.
There are more homeless families than there has ever been before. And it seems like every time you turn a corner, some one is getting cancer. With all this in life going on, how ever can a person continue to stay positive?Everything was lost, so I felt! The only thing that kept me going was to stay positive, no matter how hard it was.
Be the bigger person.It's not fun being around a negative person. But just imagine how miserable it must be to be the negative person. They are full of sour emotions and see themselves as the victim of life. They are probably scared and hurting in some way. Anger is one way that many people hide their troubles away from others. Try to be compassionate and give them the benefit of the doubt.
Bring them a little positivity.What can you do to help turn their day around? It could be something small, like acknowledging a recent accomplishment. Bring them a snack from the vending machine. Even simply asking them how they are doing can help them to open up a little and get things off their chest. Do what you think would cheer you up on an off day. If you are met with an even bigger wave of negativity, just walk away. You know that you tried, and you can't win them all!
Two: Think of an opportunity to turn the bad situation into a good situation. For instance, I never thought of how many job opportunities there are on the internet until I lost all my money in the real estate market. Now I am climbing back to the top with my online home business. Albert Einstein said: "In the middle of every difficulty, lies opportunity.Three: Realize how bad you feel when you are having negative feelings. Is it really worth it? Now realize how awesome you feel and how beautiful life really looks when you are having positive feelings. It really is hard just to go from feeling bad to feeling good. The best way to change your feelings is to think of something that makes you happy and then go there in your mind.
Four: The worst thing you can ever do, is to watch all the garbage that is going on in the news, whether it is on the television or in the news paper. It's OK to know what is going on in the world, but don't indulge yourself in it, especially when it is negative. All that does is make you feel worse and think that there is never going to be an end to all the bad stuff happening to you. Instead of listening or reading bad news, read a motivational book, or watch a comedy. You will be surprised at how your feelings will change, when you sit there and laugh until you cry at a funny movie.
Five: Most of all stay away from negative people and situations. The last thing you need when you're feeling down is someone else that is down. Get around up beat happy people. What a difference it made having to go have radiation every day.It really can be hard staying positive in such a negative world. But, really open your eyes and your heart, there is a million to one in positive energy versus negative energy around you, if you let it in!
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